Men’s Issues

Skyview Counseling works with men, their wives and students on the following issues...

• Identity, Self Image, Self Worth

• Sexual Addiction & Codependency

Sexual Addiction

Skyview Counseling works with Men and Students who are struggling with Sexual Addiction. We seek to Identify Heart Problems & Issues, Break Addictive Cycles, Provide Accountability, Build Healthy Habits and Relationships.

Definition: Sexual Addiction is generally defined as any sexual behavior that is unmanageable, destructive, repetitive, insatiable and meditative.

Criteria: Typically, a person has a Sexual Addiction if they meet at least three of the following criteria...

1) Has an ongoing desire to stop or control the behavior - but is generally unsuccessful.

2) Has a sense of being out of control and unable to stop.

3) The need for the sexual behavior continues to grow - it is insatiable.

4) Unable to stop even if there are severe consequences.

5) Continues to pursue dangerous, high-risk and /or self-destructive sexual behavior.

6) Experiences severe consequences because of their sexual behavior.

7) Sexual fantasy, obsession and acting out become the primary focus and need of life.

8) A tremendous amount of time is spent in sexual fantasy, setting up, acting out, and recovering from sexual behaviors.

9) When there is sexual activity, extensive mood changes take place.

10) There is a break down in primary relationships, in work and/or activities because of the sexual behaviors.

Modified list from "Don't Call it Love" by Dr. Patrick Carnes (ISBN: 0553072366)

Levels of Sexual Addiction: Skyview Counseling works with Men and Students who are struggling with Levels 1a, 1b, 2, & 3 Sexual Behaviors.

o        Level 1a Sexual Addiction involves sexual behaviors that have no actual contact with a real living person - such as pornography (magazines, video, Internet, sex related TV etc.), compulsive and/or damaging masturbation, obsessive sexual fantasy.

o        Level 1b Sexual Addiction involves sexual behavior that involves a living heterosexual person - such as Internet chat rooms, phone sex, strip clubs, adultery, one night stands, concurrent multiple sexual relationships, prostitution, escort services, and 'massage' parlors.

o        Level 2 Sexual Addiction involves sexual behaviors that are predatory in nature, some of which are illegal - such as voyeurism (peeping), exhibitionism, covertly rubbing up against people for sexual stimulation, masturbation in a vehicle, predatory and random sexual phone calls, taking and wearing other people's clothes for sexual stimulation, and the targeting of a specific adult population (ie nurses, teachers, secretaries etc.).

o        Level 3 Sexual Addiction involves sexual behaviors that are unusual, bizarre, unnatural and/or are illegal. Such as - multiple sexual relationships needed daily, rape, sexual abuse by force, anonymous sex with total strangers, hot johns, having sex with known STD and AIDS carriers, homosexuality, dangerous sex, sex with animals, sex with dead people/things, sex that involves the occult or religions, sadomasochism, BDSM, pedophile, incest, and a variety of other sexual behaviors.